A while back, I bumped into a friend. We started chatting and talking about people that we both know. Then she mentioned that someone moved in her boyfriend and bought a townhouse together. I gave her an apathetic “oh?” because I was not really interested about it. But then she said “Naunahan ka pa niya” (”she moved in with her boyfriend before you did”). Pfft.
Honestly, I felt insulted.
I was offended by the insinuation that I was in some kind of a race with other couples. I was offended by the insinuation that the only reason I am not married or shacking up with my boyfriend is because he hasn’t asked me yet.
First and foremost, I am not ready to get into that kind commitment…yet. I can’t even sign a contract for a cellphone plan, what more if it’s that kind of relationship? I am not even twenty five years old. In the Filipino culture, I am already a few years closer to being an old maid, but who says I’m traditional?
Secondly, I don’t believe in living together before getting married. I am an open minded person but I just don’t believe in that. I am not saying people who do that are sinners or whatever, I am just not that person. Whatever two consenting adults do in their own time is nobody’s business but their own. If they wanna live together, so be it. I’m just not the living together kind of gal.
I am gonna get married when I am ready. I am not getting married until I am emotionally ready. Not that I can’t commit, I am in a soon-to-be-a-5-year-old relationship, that should count for something, right? I am not getting married until I am financially independent. I don’t want to depend on anyone for money.
I guess I should just ignore her. I’m in a stable relation ship with a man who is very kind, supportive, understanding and just simply wonderful, anyway. (Bass, you owe me dinner just for saying this. Kidding!)
But I am not being myself if I won’t mention it.